Impostor syndrome. Nearly every person has experienced it at one time or another in their life. Whether it be trying out for the school play, taking your first solo flight, or asking someone out on a date. It can be incredibly paralyzing sometimes. You may feel like an impostor pretending to be something way above what you actually are. Or maybe you’ve asked yourself “Do I really belong here?”
I know that feeling. If you’re reading this, odds are you do, as well. The truth is, we all do from time to time. It’s those feelings that make us human. Those feelings make us crave affirmation and validation from others about who we are and what we’re doing. That’s a good thing!
There’s a power in knowing that you’re not alone and not the only one who feels this way. If I told you that you weren’t the only one who felt this way, would that make a difference? What if that someone who understands those feelings was actually just as successful as you are now or even more so? Would it still help ease those feelings of doubt and fear?
Ok, if you’re still here, let’s get into some tips for overcoming impostor syndrome. I want to share with you what helped me get through my own impostor syndrome and how it can help you become a better thought leader in your field.
This is not an easy subject to talk about because there are many different kinds of impostor syndrome that affect people in different areas of their lives. First, let’s cover some general tips on overcoming impostor syndrome.
First, you’re not alone! Talk to someone about it! Find a trusted friend or family member who will listen without judgment and help you come up with solutions together. Sometimes just knowing that someone is there for you makes all the difference.
Second, it might be helpful to hire a coach or mentor if you can afford it. A good personal development or business coach will help hold you accountable for your goals and dreams. It takes time and effort to become better at anything, and a coach can provide accountability and insight on how to make your business more successful.
Third, Empower yourself! If you believe in yourself and trust yourself, then others will too. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. When you thrive in that kind of environment, you’ll find that impostor syndrome is much easier to overcome.
To help empower yourself, make a list of all the things you have accomplished. On a separate list, make a list of all the things you want to accomplish in your business or in life in general. Compare the two lists together and you’ll find that not only do they have a lot in common but that you’re capable of accomplishing anything that you set your mind to!
Last but not least, just remember that it’s okay to be afraid. It’s human nature. The more you push yourself towards the things that scare you the most, the less time you’ll spend worrying about impostor syndrome. And when you do feel those feelings coming on, write them down and talk about them.
Fourth, gather as much knowledge as you can about your profession. The more knowledge you have about it, the better off you will be. You’ll find that there are experts out there who’ve been doing this for years and they’re willing to share their expertise with you.
Once you have the knowledge you need, it’s time to apply that knowledge in your life and in your business. You can’t expect to gain success without hard work. The more you practice the skills necessary for success, the better you’ll get at them. This is when it becomes fun because the things that seemed difficult before become easier over time.
Fifth, if you need help – ask – no – SCREAM – for it! I cannot stress this enough. We live in a world where asking for help is often deemed a sign of weakness and not a sign of strength. But, that is ridiculously far from the truth. By asking someone else for their expertise or guidance, you’re telling them that you value their opinion more than your own. That is the kind of thought leadership that will go far in your field.
I know this sounds like it might be common sense, but you’d be surprised how often people forget to do it. If you have a big project or business launch that went well, then take the time to celebrate that success with your family and friends. Reminding yourself of past successes can help build your confidence when you’re in doubt.
Last but not least, remember that creating your personal brand takes time and effort. It won’t happen overnight so keep this in mind as you work towards becoming better at what you do. Impostor syndrome is only natural when starting out so the best thing you can do for yourself is to give yourself time, love, and support.
When it comes down to overcoming impostor syndrome in your life, there is no one size fits all solution. Because everyone deals with this in their own way and for their own reasons, finding a solution that works for you will be different than it is for the next person.
The best advice I can give you is to try some of the different solutions above and see which ones work best for your situation. If you’ve tried many things and still feel like you’re failing, then try something new. Simple, but not easy.
But remember, you’ve got this! I’m rooting for you.